Can a Leopard really change its spots?
Now I know this topic can relate to a number of things from the dubious convict who sees the light and vows never to do it (whatever it may be) again to the philanderer who is caught and promises to change his ways.
My focus is on love and how love or the idea of it can seemingly turn a person into someone entirely different. Could it really be possible or would such a change only be reflected on the surface while what lies underneath will remain unchanged?
Imagine a woman who, on the surface is a partying, drinking, fun-loving kind of girl who enjoys spending money, enjoying extravagances like 5* hotels, pamper sessions, luxury cruises and Mediterranean holidays. And underneath she is a battered and abused spouse. She finally gets the courage to leave and one day meets a man who treats her like a princess. Suddenly this party-gal becomes a nature-lover who goes forgoes materialistic things, goes camping and hiking. Spends a day in the wilds and even runs races for charities. A complete turnabout from her former life. Love has turned her into a completely different person. But is she really different or would her inner personality remain the same? And would it eventually come out, to destroy what she has built?
Now imagine a young adult deeply involved in the occult and committed to the dark side of life with substance abuse, animal sacrifice and suicidal tendencies. She meets a man who is the same as her but her complete turnaround comes from a different kind of love – her children. When she has her children, all of a sudden she is a loving mummy whose children are her life. No more drugs, no more darkness. She has even become an ardent animal rights activist and campaigner. Well, some could say it is natural to experiment in one’s youth and that is probably all it was but I do have to wonder if she would have changed or degenerated even further had she not had her children. Would I have one day read about her in an obituary as someone who had suffered an untimely death? Did her love for her children change her, save her?
What do you think about people and change? Do you think people can change? Do you think they should? What if the change makes them a worse person rather than a better one? Or should we just accept who we are and stay the same?
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