Where to from here?
You may have asked yourself that question a hundred times before for a variety of reasons. It could relate to something mundane, an everyday task. For example, you are lost and are wondering where to go. Or, if you are anything like me, you have a tendency to forget what you were doing before you entered the room, you have forgotten why you came into the room (but you know there is a VERY good reason for being there and you just know you will remember once you have left it again) and you are left there, standing around like a lion stuck in a field of parsnips (he’s REALLY asking himself this question) and you think to yourself,
So, where to from here?
The obvious answer, of course, is that you should return to where you started so that you can rethink your actions and rediscover your ultimate quest. But do you follow that path or do you dream up a new one? I know that probably sounds completely ridiculous – all you’re doing is walking around your own place – but you still make these kind of decisions regardless of whether you’re thinking about them or just performing the actions subconsciously (in all honesty, if I walk into the bedroom looking for something and have forgotten what it is, I usually swear at myself and go back to wherever I was without even considering THE question!). If I did ask myself THE question, what would my response be? Now I have to consider this carefully and I have to ask myself several follow-up questions to reach my answer. Some examples of these questions would be things like:
Am I hungry? (answer: yes, destination: kitchen; answer: no, destination: consider next question)
Do I need to go to the toilet? (answer: yes, destination: loo; answer: no, destination: consider next question)
Am I tired? (answer: yes, destination: bed; answer: no, destination – wait, I’m tired now…)
Okay, you get the gist of it. I do think that this line of questioning, when used in everyday, mundane tasks, could really drag out one’s day, which is fine if you are utterly bored but could be a bit of an annoyance when you’re in a hurry or busy or anything that is not being bored. Therefore, the question should rather be left for those times when you are considering considerably more important pending decisions.
You know the ones, the earth shattering, life changing ones.
Have you ever had one of those days, you know, when you get knocked down and kicked in the teeth ( figuratively speaking of course)? Then you should definitely ask yourself
Where to from here?
And consider your answer carefully. Of course, life changing decisions have to take time and involve others. You cannot ask yourself THIS question without phoning your best friend. Of course, after five hours (at a minimum), you know you will still be no closer to reaching that decision, but at least you will have laughed, cried, shouted, cried some more and laughed a lot more. Of course, it’s a lot harder to make a decision after that because, although you feel better after sharing (and everyone knows that sharing really does make a heavy burden easier to carry), your ears are ringing so loudly that you cannot think about anything AT ALL (including whether or not you need to pee) AND you cannot verbally share your question with anyone else as you no longer have a voice to say it with!
So how else would you come to be enlightened, if not through chatting with your best mate? Well, and this is the very hard part, you have to do it on your own. After all, such a decision shouldn’t be made by your partner, family, work colleagues or that wacky friend who still watches cartoons AND laughs hysterically at them. You cannot possibly pass it on to the shoulders of someone else because that only means that at the end of it you can blame them and that’s not a good thing (unless you secretly really don’t like them, then go ahead, it’ll give you a clear outlet to vent your frustrations with said person). No, you need to deal with the question yourself. As I said before, take your time and consider follow-up questions that could be pertinent to making your decision. To give you some examples ( these are examples only as I am certain your all-important life-changing question would probably be significantly different to mine – or not):
Do you still want this? (answer: yes, destination: move forward with it to improve it; answer: no, destination: consider alternatives)
Can I do something else / substitute this with something better (answer: yes, destination: do the alternative; answer no: ah, basically you’re fu….!)
Whatever your destination is, I hope it is a good one. And no matter what the destination is, remember that the journey is just as important, so make it count!
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